Monday, 14 July 2014

Little by little {how to win our battles}

Did you ever think about things that you need to accomplish, and feel overwhelmed by the magnitude of the task?

Situations in our life can sometimes tower above us, making us feel rather overwhelmed. Often, in my role as a wife, mother and housekeeper, I look around and think "How in the WORLD am I supposed to get this all done?"

I look at my spiritual life, too, with thoughts of how challenging it is to make changes, and to work on the areas that I feel are lacking.  I feel my weaknesses, and wonder how I will ever improve and grow in certain areas.

This morning, as I was reading through my Facebook feed, I read a report about a little boy who had suffered a head injury a few days ago.  Things had looked bad, but a little improvement had been made, and the pastor sharing the update mentioned a verse he had shared with the family.


"By little and little I will drive them out from before thee, until thou be increased, and inherit the land." 
Exodus 23:30


Did you know that verse was there?

It's one that I have most certainly read, but the Lord had not really applied it to my heart and life.

God had promised that the Israelites would conquer the Promised Land.  He reminded them, here, however, that it was not an instant take-over.  It would happen "little by little".

Life today is filled with "instant" things.  Everyone wants what they want NOW.  No waiting.  No patience.  No being satisfied with "baby steps"  in what they want in life.  It's the toddler attitude generation.

"I want it, and I want it NOW", whilst throwing a mini "tantrum" if it doesn't happen for them, like a small child would do.

God doesn't always give us the victory, which He promises, in an instant.  We need patience, and a continual trust in His perfect way and His perfect plans, in order to see the end result coming to fruition.

Maybe it's your marriage. Things need to change, but nothing seems to be happening in a hurry.  You need to change, or your husband is not all he should be. Maybe both... Don't expect everything to change overnight. Look out for God's "little and little", and rejoice over the small victories.

Child training, and encouraging them to do right, is ALWAYS a challenge. It's so much easier to see the lack of big changes, and overlook the "little and little". Look hard, though. IT'S THERE! As we patiently train their attitudes, mould their behaviour, and pray for their hearts, God is working.  We may not see big changes, but if we look carefully, there are little victories to rejoice over.

In your personal walk with the Lord, you may be struggling with sins that easily beset, or attitudes that are hard to change. Sanctification is definitely the domain of "little and little".  We don't instantly switch to sinless perfection when we come to a saving knowledge of Christ - it's little victories on a daily basis, and a little growth day by day, that makes us conquerors.  We ARE victors - conquering small things is no less significant and rewarding, than conquering the big things.

It's interesting, if you look at  the passage in Exodus, to see WHY God told them that they would only conquer a little at once.  Like the Israelites, we serve a great and mighty God, who can do ANYTHING. He is all powerful.  He could have given them an instant, all-conquering victory, just as He could do in our lives and situations.  However, He didn't, and He doesn't.  

Here's the reason why.

"I will not drive them out from before thee in one year; lest the land become desolate, and the beast of the field multiply against thee."
(v29)

If they had made a swift victory, the country would have become desolate, and filled with wild creatures roaming around.

The number of Israelites coming in would not have been enough to sustain the agriculture, industry and settlements that already existed, and wild animals would have then taken over, instead of people.

The relevance to us, being WHAT?....

If God gave us immediate and complete victory over things in our life, we would soon get other challenges come up in their place, and more work would need to be done than in the first instance! Apart from anything else, the danger of complacency and self reliance would push their way into our life, and cause as many, if not different, problems.  

Having struggles and trials, that are only conquered "little and little", forces us to rely more upon God for our strength and hope, instead of upon ourselves. 

What is also worth remembering is, little victories are STILL victories.  We're not being defeated.  We are still making progress. We are still winning the battle.  As God's children, we are NEVER on the losing side.  We can NOT lose the battle.  If we are fighting with God, and fighting His way, we are on the victory side!

Don't be discouraged this week - keep gaining ground - keep on getting the victory - little and little.




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Friday, 11 July 2014

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Thursday, 10 July 2014

Blogging through the alphabet {Horticulture, high excitement, heat, and Healthy Mama (the Trim variety)}

(This post was providentially written LAST week, in error, before publishing the correct letter for the week. Providential, because I've been too busy with ill children to write one this week! Yet, here one is! So, imagine me writing it last week. I didn't do any of this THIS week!)



I am going to be a bit Irish, and begin with the last thing on my list in my post title.

HEAT!

Finally, we are experiencing more than one day of half decent weather, here in rural Bedfordshire!  Summer, I believe, may finally be upon us.  Blink, and you may miss it.  Alternatively, it may get so hot that I sit indoors, beside a fan, and only go out when it cools down.  I am a Scot. I'm not used to hot, sticky weather. I am not sure whether it will ever be something I enjoy.  My favourite day would be one in the mid-twenties (70's, I believe, for Americans...), with a breeze.  Gorgeous. However, I have been so crazy busy, I haven't really got OUT to enjoy it much, as yet.  Maybe next week? Hang on, it'll probably be wet again by then.

On a plus, I HAVE to get out tonight.  This week, I made my annual trip to the local garden centre, to get some more plants.  I am enjoying add things, bit by bit, every year, to get the garden how I would like it. I am hardly a true horticulturist, but I try. I am attempting to work out, and learn, which plants would be happiest where. Thankfully, there is a very wonderful lady at the garden centre who answers all my questions very capably. Crazily, on my part, I don't even know her name. Yet, strangely enough, with a multitude of children in tow, she remembers me. Crazy, huh?  She was able to tell me that I have probably planted my peonies too deep.  I will have to wait ANOTHER year to see the flowers on that plant.  My lilac, which also didn't flower, apparently just needs patience. She pointed me in the direction of some plants which should be happy in my shady corner, and advised about thinning out our tree to let more light through to the back border. It's so good to get such a lot of advice, for free!

I also got some plants which are scented - not the flowers, the leaves! I am going to have a "sniff and guess" corner, where people can try and work out the scents of each!

So, tonight I will go back out, like I did the other evening, and finish planting.  I just love it out there.  I get my current audiobook playing, headphones in, and away I go, into a little world of my own, planting, watering, and pruning as I go. Hands dirty.  Happiness, in the extreme.







(My poppies out again - LOVE them!)


My other high excitement of the week was related to a shopping trip. Our friends were here for the weekend, and our husbands decided to to bless the ladies to a shopping trip - CHILD FREE! It was only a short trip, as I needed to be back to feed Tabitha, but it was CHILD FREE! I never go looking for opportunities like that, really, but when they are offered, I say "yes"!

So, off we toddled to Olney. It's a pretty little town, renowned for 2 well known occupants, in years gone past - John Newton, and William Cowper. If you don't know who they are, shame on you! Olney has several charity shops (thrift stores), and invariably I manage to find SOMETHING worth grabbing.  ON Monday, I picked up two pairs of shoes for Bethany - each would have been £40 new, and one never worn, the hardly worn - a cardigan, a top for myself, and then I hit the high excitement moment.  My friend spotted a lovely skirt, which didn't suit her when she tried it on. I thought I'd give it a whirl, and even though it was a style that I am not always convinced is the most flattering, it looked great on! (My friend agreed, so it wasn't just me being optimistic!) I asked her, through the changing room door, if she had noticed where the skirt was from. I started to turn it inside out to find a label...when, I shouted (yes, it was pretty much shouting) in excitement, from inside the cubicle "It's...." my sentence was finished by my friend, who had seen what was going on, under the cubicle door... "REVERSIBLE"!!! You cannot imagine how excited I was! It was highly amusing, quite frankly! I find it VERY hard to find long skirts, which fit, and I like. To get ONE I liked was awesome, to get TWO!?!??!..... HIGHLY exciting! The other moment, which was rather hilarious (another "H"!), was when we went to the till, the lady remembered us from being there before! "You're the ladies with all the children, aren't you?!" What a lovely way to be known!



Skirt one


... and skirt two! 



Beth's skirt has a drawstring, so although an adult's size (from MONSOON!), it fits her! 



(Oops, a photo of Tabitha made its way in.. such a shame...)


My final "H" is what I have jumped into this last week or so. I have heard a  LOT about Trim Healthy Mama - the way of eating developed by two lovely ladies - Serene and Pearl.





 I had seen friends using this method to lose a LOT of weight, and was pretty impressed.  I go the impression, however, that it was a bit complicated, and used some weird ingredients that I was a bit wary of (simply due to not knowing quite what they were, or how to use them), and that it used a lot of dairy, which I hadn't been eating. I decided to bite the bullet, and give it a try, using my sister's book to see how it worked.  Well, I realised it WASN'T as tricky as I thought, in fact, more simple. The whole system can be as simple or as complicated as you like, eating pretty normal foods.  My favourite discovery has been the smoothies - my favourite one is actually FAT STRIPPING!!! Not unhealthy at all, and like drinking a creamy, McDonalds milkshake, without all the junk in it! Oh, and I found another stonking recipe, for a strawberry MIAM (Muffin in a mug). It takes seconds to mix up, and about 90 seconds to cook! You can even eat it for breakfast! I would suggest, if you have heard of it and were unsure, give it a whirl. If you have weight to lose, and want to do it enjoyably, give it a whirl! There are things there to suit everyone, and the results I have see are amazing. I have lost a few pounds, but am noticing more that I have SLIMMED already! Go figure! You can buy a hard copy of the book, or an ebook.  I have borrowed a hard copy, and I think it's probably better for flicking through. Oh yes, the other thing - having not eaten gluten for ages now, I can finally EAT CAKE! The MIAM is gluten free, and still delicious.  I will share the link below, so you can try it for yourself. All the ingredients are readily available, and if you have any questions, ask in the comments below.


Blogging through the Alphabet {Knocked for 6, Kindness and Ka-ching!)

Well, this week has been interesting.  With great thankfulness, I found that the children were on the mend.

With great dismay, I realised I was getting the virus they had in the midst of the "Pox epidemic". Sunday evening, I was already feeling ill, and headed to bed at shortly after 7pm.  Yes, SEVEN pm. Any who know me well would know that was an indicator of some sort of illness!

Monday, I felt even worse. I got more unwell as the moments passed, and ended up going up to bed for a kip, late morning.  That is also rare for me.  I rarely sleep in the daytime, unless pregnant (which I am no) or ill (which I most certainly was).  I got up from my sleep and felt even worse. I had a high temperature, aches, and even had pins and needles in my arms at one point. I felt like I had totally been knocked for 6 - total wipeout.

Thankfully, the children were very good, and didn't cause me any issues, whilst I lay, feeling half dead, on the sofa. Part way through the afternoon, my very kind friend, and neighbour, provided me with Ibuprofen, and by the end of the afternoon I was starting to feel a bit better.  I managed to eat the kebab my hubby brought home for me to eat (well, not ALL of it, but most), and he brought the children sausages and chips (large, chunky french fries, not potato chips, American folks!).  There was simply no way that I could have cooked dinner, and it was hard enough to eat it!

The next day, I thought I felt better, but got worse through the day again. I realised the Ibuprofen, although not friends with my tummy, was necessary to survive! Again, I felt better as the day progressed, and managed another kip whilst the children had lunch and cleared up.

I have to say, at times like this, I am very thankful that I have taken the time to train the children to help around the house.  Other than feeding Tabitha (milk feeds) and changing nappies, they did everything else, including making me things to eat both days. They were able to feed themselves (they COULD have made a dinner, but Robert got "easy" things in both days), and do tidying up, as well as looking after the little ones. It's a blessing to have them so willingly do these things.

I was also very thankful for kindness shown by various people.  The children have massively enjoyed making loom bracelets, with the loom bands sent from my "Secret Sister". I bought them some more, and they are being created at an amazing rate!

I am thankful for my kind husband, who uncomplaining brought dinner back bother nights. It was so helpful to know that was taken care of.

I am thankful for a Church friend, who today brought some crafty activities for the children to do, to keep them occupied as they get over the chickenpox.  I also got flowers, too, which are always gratefully received! Beautiful yellow roses! Such a kind thought and demonstration of kindness, blessing us all in that way.

It's caused me to ponder whether I am as kind as I could be, when others are in need.  I must never underestimate how much even a small act of kindness is appreciated, when someone has been going through a difficult time.  I need to think of ways that I can still show kindness, even though we are often so busy and close to home. It's certainly a trait that should be a mark of our love for Christ, and our following after Him.





Finally...

The "Ka-ching" part?

Auntie Anna is selling her cards at a village event tomorrow, and happened to mention that when she was at an event, last week, that someone was selling loom bracelets for 50p each. (you know, loom bands? If you don't know, you havne' tgot a child aged from about 5 to about 27.... ok, maybe somewhere in the teens...) This lady sold 80, and made £40! Well, my children heard that and thought "Ka-ching"! They have since been busily making bracelets, in the hope they make some summer spending money! I think it's great to encourage an entrepreneurial spirit, from an early age.  So, I am really hoping they get plenty made, and plenty sold. They have until lunchtime tomorrow to make as many as they can, because after lunch, Josh will go and help his Auntie at the event, and hopefully sell, sell, sell!



I have been kindly been given several by the children so far, but have a feeling they have been snaffled back, to recycle into sellable objects! 


I am thankful to have us all on the mend, and hope that the next two weeks will see us finishing up for our summer break, and school over for a few weeks. YAY!



Ben and Me

Sunday, 6 July 2014

Humility in our marriages {when our husband is our Brother first}

I love the Epistles.  They are absolutely jam-packed full of practical advice. These, of course, are letters - written by various apostles to the newly formed "churches", or bodies of believers. They were groups who were meeting together as part of the "early Church", not long after the death of Christ, and the realisation that the Messiah had, indeed, come - that they were now following after Christ as their Saviour.  They had much to learn.  Many were converted from Judaism, where they were rule followers. Those believers had to learn grace, love, forgiveness. Many were from completely gentile, or even pagan, backgrounds - from cities and outlying regions, where the gospel was reaching out through the missionary journeys of disciples and apostles.

All of them had one thing in common.  They were sinners, needing a sanctifying work of the Holy Spirit in their lives, as they sought to become more Christlike.

In today's culture, we read these epistles, and often consider them in the light of the "Church", as they were written to.

We read instructions such as,

"Let brotherly love continue." 
Hebrews 13:1

"Endeavouring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace."
Ephesians 4:3

"Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves." 
Philippians 2:3  


and we think about how we need to work at making the Church we attend a God-glorifying place, where we all love each other, get along, and respect one another's opinions.  We work at it, and endeavour to do our best at making our Church life one of blessing.

Then we come home.

Suddenly, we forget that our husband is also our brother.  We forget we are part of the same body - in more ways than one.  United in Christ, AND united in marriage.

All that we hold so dear, in the context of the Church, we throw casually to one side in how we treat each other in our families.

There is one character trait which causes much damage in marriages, and in families as a whole.

Pride.

A lack of humility.

The "I'm right, you're wrong" attitude.

As I listened to God's Word being preached on Sermon Audio last week, I listened to a sermon which dealt with this very issue, in the wider context of the Church.  However, it struck me as to how much of a clincher it is, if we desire a healthy, God-glorifying marriage.

Do I have a JOY attitude? A "Jesus, Others, Yourself" attitude?

Or, is it more of a

"Jesus

Others (Oh, except my husband, because why should HE get to know more than me, or have a "more worth listening to" perspective on life?)

Yourself"

attitude?

It's sad, but unmistakably true, that many, many "Christian" marriages, seem to be founded upon that attitude.

Pride.  Stubborn wills.  Unbending opinions.  Self righteousness.

Trust me, I speak to my own heart first. With great sorrow, I saw myself staring right back, when I looked into the mirror of God's Word, as that message was being preached.

The times when I have stubbornly thought that what I thought was far better, and my husband couldn't possibly be right.

The moments when my heart grumbled and moaned inwardly, because I stubbornly believed my opinion to be of greater value than Robert's.

It doesn't have to be an outward manifestation - in fact, an inward "muttering" of the spirit can be far more destructive.

The thing is, if we are both saved, by God's grace, our husband is our BROTHER.  We are "heirs together of the grace of life".  Children of the Heavenly King.  Part of the same body of Christ, the same family of God.

Those verses are written to US, and need to be applied within the context of our marriage, as equally as in the context of the "church".

Just look at these verses.  Don't think of them in the Church setting.

Stop.

Think about them in the context of marriage, or of family.


"For I say, through the grace given unto me, to every man that is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think; but to think soberly, according as God hath dealt to every man the measure of faith. 
For as we have many members in one body." 
Romans 12:4


Not thinking of ourselves more highly than we ought.

Is our opinion and perspective REALLY more valuable and worthy of following, than that of our spouse? Do we think of ourselves THAT highly, that we don't even consider listening to the point of view of our husband?

Oh, how devastatingly cringe-worthy.  I am internally squirming, as I think of how that has applied in my own life.  How I shame my Saviour, when I think of myself in that way.

Those times when I have jumped to argue, and bicker, and be contentious.  Not endeavouring to keep unity, and peace.

Look at this list in Proverbs, of things God hates - it's one I shared last week.

"A proud look, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood, 
An heart that deviseth wicked imaginations, feet that be swift in running to mischief, 
A false witness that speaketh lies, and he that soweth discord among brethren."


Do you see how it starts, and how it ends?  It begins with pride, and ends with discord.  That is what happens in our marriages - if we begin with a proud heart, that thinks highly of herself, we will end with discord. Discord is the opposite of being harmonious, or tuneful.  Our marriages will be lacking melody - just filled with angry, confused "noise", if we are proud and opinionated.  In fact, that noise could very well end up being arguing and shouting.

It's no surprise that the book Proverbs deals so much with the subject of contentious women - it's a shameful inclination of our sinful hearts, to desire to argue, instead of to be peaceable.

"A foolish woman is clamorous: she is simple, and knoweth nothing." 
Proverbs 9:13  

"It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house." 
Proverbs 21:9 

 "It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman."
Proverbs 21:19 

 "A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike."
Proverbs 27:15 

 "It is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman and in a wide house."
Proverbs 25:24 
If you are reading all of these and thinking

"What about the men, hey? What are THEY supposed to be doing? Where's THEIR list?"

Then, you're putting yourself on that "pride" list straight away.

A mark of one with humility, is one who can look upon themselves and see their own sin, without having to point the finger at another first.

We need to be wives who don't "sow discord". Not speaking down to our husbands, or finding fault, or criticising.  Having a spirit like that just puts us up on that "higher than we ought to think" shelf, again. Speaking down, is elevating our own point of view, and demeaning another's.  Finding fault and criticising is comparing to a standard we think is "right", and seeing where another falls short. 

So how DO we need to be?

We need to be gracious women.  

"A gracious woman retaineth honour: "
Proverbs 11:16 

We need to be gentle, and meek.  


"gentle, shewing all meekness unto all men."
Titus 3:2

"a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price."
I Peter 3:4:


 Meekness is NOT weakness.  It's humility.  

Pleasant, kind, showing grace.


"With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love; 
Endeavouring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace."
Ephesians 4:2-3


Longsuffering - patient - cheerfully enduring. 

In LOVE.

Are we living a marriage with that kind of being "in love"?  

Endeavouring - it requires effort.  Look at the Strong's expansion of that one word...

"to make effort, be prompt or earnest: - do (give) diligence, be diligent (forward), endeavour, labour, study."

Oh, my soul.  Diligently strive to cast off pride, high opinions of yourself, and a haughty spirit. Graciously, lovingly, and humbly put your husband and his point of view, higher - way, high above - your own.

Anything we have only comes from God.  It's nothing of ourself, anyway. God has equally gifted our husbands with wisdom and perspective, equally valid to our own. It's never worth destroying a marriage because of pride.

As Mr Wagner said in his sermon - "It's not about you - it's about the body of Christ".

And my husband is my brother.

I plead with the Lord to make me humble and not haughty - a gracious woman who retains honour.


 









Friday, 4 July 2014

Blogging through the Alphabet {Joy - when we need to chase it down with a big stick}

I am not a miserable person, by nature. I am much more the optimist than the pessimist.

I'm a glass half full, not a glass half empty, kind of gal.

I try to be an encourager, and remain cheerful and upbeat.

This week, it's been a challenge. Children with the chickenpox has been VERY challenging. I had great visions of having opportunity to do oodles of jobs, whilst the children watched more DVDs than normal, or maybe even slept.

Errrrrr, no.

Well, sort of.  In between giving out extra cuddles, smearing on multiple varieties of soothing cream, and running oat baths, I have also had to cram in normal "everyday" kinda stuff.  You know, cooking, washing clothes, going to the loo...?

Add to that a daughter, covered in chickenpox, wakening me at unearthly hours, and starting her day at insane times (think 4.30 am, 6am, and 5.45am today - on top of disturbed nights.. Yes, great...)

Feeling tired normally makes me feel rather sensitive, and easily wound up - especially when you add to the mix a very spotty, very itchy, very sore, four year old boy, who doesn't deal well with the "out of the ordinary", and spent most of his waking hours crying and saying "ow, ow , ow".

*And breathe*

I didn't have to just choose joy, this week.  I had to chase after it, and hunt it down like, well, a hunter!

You see, joy is not something that hangs upon circumstances being rosy and bright. It's not dependent upon things all working out in the hunky dory category. It's not something that just drops in your lap as a natural occurring phenomena.  You have to intentionally choose to be joyful, and it especially applies in the tough, trying moments. Times like this week, it was certainly not in plain sight - it was a hidden thing, that required a soul-searching, and a crying out to the Lord to answer prayers.

Praise His name alone, I found it.  Every day, I have been able to find joy, in troubled moments.

How did I chase it down?  How did I find it?

First, I have been asking the Lord to help me, more than anything else.  I don't have the strength to have joy on my own. I am a weak woman, and have no ability to do so in my own strength.

Do you know what?  God answers prayer!

Next, I keep being extremely thankful.  Thankful, amidst all these poorly children?  How can I be *THANKFUL*? I am SO thankful that chickenpox is a one off.  This will not happen again.  This is it - done and dusted.  Do you know what else I am thankful for?  I am thankful for my children - the children that God has given me, whom I love dearly.  Had I not been given them, sure, I wouldn't have this trial - I WOULD miss out on daily joy of numerous sorts, simply by having them in my life.  Even Elijah saying funny little things, amidst his struggles, makes me smile! "Mummy, this is just so ANNOYING!"

I hear ya, son - I hear ya!

I am exceedingly thankful that they are not in pain ALL the time.  Some people have children who suffer pain and discomfort EVERY day of their lives.  Children with long-term illness and terminal illness.  People with children who have disabilities.  My children will be better in a short space of time, relatively speaking.

I am thankful that I am accustomed to them being at home, and that I am here, available, to care for them.  If your children normally attend school, it must be somewhat of a palaver to arrange to be off work, or to have them in the house when you're not used to it.  That was just "the norm" for me, so less of an adjustment.

I am thankful for the one-to-one time I have had with the children. Whether it's been showing compassion, spreading lotions over itchy skin, or cuddling up with younger children - it's all been special!

I am thankful for the time to unwind a little.  This has forced me to sit down, and rest, which isn't something I normally do.  It's been quite a treat.  Sure, I am dog-tired, with Tabitha waking more at night, so the rest is appreciated - but, besides that, it's still a treat!

I am thankful that I have managed to get some jobs done that have been bugging me for AGES! I will share more about that in another post, but I got some sorting, clearing and organising done, in the odd moment where the younger ones were asleep, and I had other jobs caught up on.

I am thankful for the opportunity to see some friends.  It's ALWAYS a joy to see people who we rarely see.  Both families came to try and catch the pox, so we'll see if that part works.  Chickenpox-catching aside, it was so lovely to catch up with them, and spend sweet fellowship chatting and encouraging one another. I felt bad that I couldn't be the hostess I like to be, but my main aim was to look after my family, and theirs' was to try and catch the pox! *grin* Standing on ceremony was less important.

I am also thankful that I got some tidying up done today, because some friends, over on furlough from missions work, were coming for lunch.  Tabitha was awake before 6am, so I was able to get some home baking done for them coming, which I wasn't sure I would have got to do otherwise! Having people come over is ALWAYS a good incentive to do a power clean! Amazing what you can do in about 30 minutes, whilst your small people follow you around asking "When can I sit on your lamp?" (Elijah STILL calls my lap my LAMP - quite what he thinks we sing about, when we sing "Give me oil in my lamp", I am NOT sure....)

I am even thankful, right now, in my foggy brained state, that although I feel like I am getting some kind of viral ailment (think, sore throat, fuzzy head, and achy joints starting..) that it is coming on at a time when everyone is starting to be "On the mend".

Being thankful REALLY helps with the chasing of joy - and the CATCHING of it!

I rejoice that I can be thankful - I rejoice that I can see friends - I rejoice that I have these precious children who HAVE the chickenpox, to shower my love and attention upon.

In all that joy, the best part has happened.  We are told "The joy of the Lord is your strength".  That is how I have survived. That is how I have kept going, in relative calm and peace. Having joy, from the Lord, has given me HIS strength, to be what I need to be.  It's nothing of myself. When I am weak, then I am strong - IN HIS MIGHT.




Joy is not dependent upon circumstances.  It's something we are TOLD to do - ALWAYS. There is always something to rejoice about, even if it's as simple as having joy in God, who He is, and what He has done for us.


"Rejoice in the Lord alway; and again I say, REJOICE". 
Philippians 4:4



I apologise if this post is lacking coherency, because my brain is rather foggy, but I still wanted to share with you about how the Lord has given me joy this week, in my trials.



Ben and Me

Tuesday, 1 July 2014

To-do list {the spiritual kind}

Ok, hands up.

How many of your are list makers?

Who has little pads of paper lying around the house, with things scribbled down, or perhaps neatly penned, in order to focus your mind on what needs to be done that day, week or month?

You'd think I knew what I was talking about.

I am AWFUL at making, and following, lists.  I feel my life may be improved if I actually stuck at making it a habit, but my tendency towards procrastinating over beginning new habits will have to wait for another day...

However, I was listening to a sermon yesterday, which brought my mind to the topic of "lists" in the Bible. There are both "to-do" ones and "to-not-do" ones.

Colossians 3 has a classic list of what NOT to do - what to "put off".

"anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy communication out of your mouth. Lie not one to another"


Proverbs 6 has lists of things that God hates.

"A proud look, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood,
An heart that deviseth wicked imaginations, feet that be swift in running to mischief,
A false witness that speaketh lies, and he that soweth discord among brethren."



 There are things that are never satisfied

"the grave; and the barren womb; the earth that is not filled with water; and the fire that saith not, It is enough."


and four things little, but wise

"The ants are a people not strong, yet they prepare their meat in the summer;
The conies are but a feeble folk, yet make they their houses in the rocks;
The locusts have no king, yet go they forth all of them by bands;
The spider taketh hold with her hands, and is in kings' palaces."

(If I but had the time, that one would make a fab children's study/notebooking activity/lapbook!)

The list my mind was drawn to was one in the New Testament.

This list is slightly different. It's like the kind you make when you need to do the first thing before the next is possible, and so forth, down a list.

It's found in II Peter, chapter 1.

"And beside this, giving all diligence, 
add to your faith virtue; 
and to virtue knowledge; 
 And to knowledge temperance; 
and to temperance patience; 
and to patience godliness; 
And to godliness brotherly kindness; 
and to brotherly kindness charity. "


Now, if there's ever a list that you should have pinned up as a "to-do", it's THIS one.

When you read this list, suddenly cleaning your bathroom, wiping down the skirting boards and cleaning the drawer in your washing machine all pale into insignificance!

As women, we can be sucked into the "must-keep-the-house-spotless-all-the-time-because-someone-might-think-badly-of-me-if-I-don't" mentality.  So, endless lists of jobs to do around the house keep us incessantly occupied.

Maybe we are in the "If-I-don't-keep-up-with-what-everyone-else-does-I-will-be-depriving-my-children" camp.  Off we toddle, every possible waking hour, to take our children to X, Y and Z.

There are many areas where we have lists as long as our arm, that we try and follow and keep up with.

Nothing compares to the one in II Peter, in the arena of what SHOULD be accomplished in our life.

I need to stop, take a long, hard look at my life, and think if I am following THIS "To-do list".

It's a fairly convicting, and challenging, list.

Faith, virtue, knowledge, temperance, patience, godliness, brotherly kindness, charity

Starting off with making sure that our profession of faith is true, we need to add virtue (excellence and praise), knowledge, temperance (self-control), patience (looooong-suffering), godliness, brotherly kindness (affection for those who are near and dear) and charity (love - literally translated "love feast"!)

Not only that, but the verse tells us HOW to carry out the duties on the list - with all diligence. Oh, wow. How far do *I* fall below that standard on a regular basis? ALL diligence. It's convicting just thinking about the list, never mind how far off "all diligence" I am.

Now, if my day was filled trying to put that list into action, how much more would I be helping myself, and those around me? I can see a few there, that need some SERIOUS work in my life. That whole "Oh, you homeschool, you must be SO patient"?? Hmmmmm

This week has been challenging, so far, with so many children down with chickenpox.  Several of those attributes on the list are being tested and tried - but, I need to keeping "adding", by God's grace.

So, I think I will get a spiritual "to-do" list up on my fridge.  Focussing my efforts on improving in my  spiritual life, should take precedence over any other list I have with earthly goals and ambitions.




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